A FabCocktail Father’s Day

I don’t have children of my own, other than my fur baby Paisley, but I’ve been blessed enough to become a “Bonus Mom” to my boyfriend’s beautiful, vivacious little girl. We use the term Bonus Mom after a friend mentioned it to us after seeing the three of us together at lunch. By no means am I trying to take the place of her actual mother, I’m just an extra helping hand who is here to give her as much love and light as possible. I like being able to buy her princess outfits or comfort her when she just needs a woman’s energy. And I pray that as she continues to grow and our relationship flourishes, I can be someone she goes to for advice about boys or what to wear to the school dance.

But here’s why I care about this amazing little human being so much – her father! Yes she’s a spunky little girl with the best smile ever, but her joyous spirit comes from her mother (who I will give mad props to for raising such a great little girl) and her father. Even when life hits hard and co-parenting with someone you’re no longer in a relationship with gets tough, he smiles through it all. He ONLY wants his beloved daughter to know the good in life and he does everything possible to bring her nothing but joy.

I didn’t have my birth father growing up, so to see him waking up at 5am and hopping on a train to go to an entirely different state to pick her up just brings tears to my eyes. My birth father wouldn’t have even gone a few miles down the road to hang out with me for the day, let alone an entire month. So ladies with “baby daddies” who are co-parenting with men who care, cut them some slack. They truly only want the best for their children.

Parenting is not easy. It’s tiring and expensive but my boyfriend parents his baby girl with pride. He puts his daughter’s best interest first. He’ll always be there to love her and guide her through life and I’m excited to continue to watch him in his journey as a father.

Happy Father’s Day, baby. Dad of the year award goes to you!

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The Tale of a Chic Vampire

Have you ever been so sick that you just felt like an entirely new person when you finally felt better? It’s such a wonderful feeling, isn’t it?
I recently had some health issues and I was going to keep this between close friends and family but I figured, why not share my story?


After almost two months of feeling exhausted, weak, anxious, irritable, and fainting in the middle of the streets of Birmingham, I decided to finally go to the doctor. I spent so much time thinking I would just get better if I stopped drinking alcohol, only drank water (PH balanced water to be exact) and worked out more. The problem was, I still felt crappy after cutting out alcohol and I didn’t even have the energy to work out. It go to the point where I was completely out of breath when I walked up stairs or farther than an inch. Seriously, it took so much out of me to walk from my living room to bedroom some nights. I would cry because I was so stressed out from being tired ALL. THE. TIME. But still had so many sleepless nights because my legs were hurting from restless leg syndrome.


After seeing my doctor, she looked at my hands and eyes and could immediately tell it was my anemia. Blood work was done and I found out my blood count was a 5. In case you didn’t know, your blood count should be at least a 7 to function properly. It was so severe that a blood transfusion was ordered for me. I’m like a modern day vampire, I guess? I was injected with two units of blood and my iron pill dosage was upped.
Not going to lie, I was scared shitless to get the transfusion. I’ve never been admitted to the hospital; never even broken a bone. Almost had an anxiety attack when they put the IV in. But let me tell you, it was the best thing ever! I literally feel like an entirely new person and I’m back to living life regularly and feeling healthier.
The point of this was to inspire you to LISTEN TO YOUR BODY! Don’t wait for symptoms to worsen before you seek professional help. Even though I feel so much better, I’m still kicking myself for waiting so long to make a doctor appointment. There were so many days I knew something wasn’t right but kept saying to myself, “You’re too busy today, call the doctor tomorrow.” or “Eat this fruit and you’ll be sure to feel better!” I missed out on some things and I don’t want anyone to have to feel pain or suffering like I did.
I also want to give God the glory for healing. May God bless anyone reading this who isn’t well. We’ve got lots more living to do, people!
Outfit Details:
Bodysuit – Fashion Nova – this is my FAVORITE bodysuit. I have it in 3 colors.
Duster Vest – Target (similar)
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10 Things You Need to Know About The District Detroit & Little Ceasars Areana


With the anticipation getting stronger for the completion of Little Caesars arena, my visit to The District Detroit Welcome Center made me want to share some exciting findings with all of my Detroit players!



Thanks to Visit Detroit and Travel Massive, I was able to get a glimpse of what’s to come over the next few years between Little Caesars Arena, and the surrounding area. So, without further ado, here are 10 things you need to know about The District Detroit (Detroit’s entertainment block including Comerica Park, The Fox Theater, Ford Field, and Little Caesars Arena)!



The District Detroit: 

  1. The District Detroit is the largest privately-led urban development.
  2. It is the first street corner in America with 5 pro teams within blocks of each other – Lions, Tigers, Red Wings, Pistons, and the soon-to-be pro soccer team!
  3. By 2020, all the arenas will no longer sit in a sea of parking, rather,  retail, food, and entertainment.
  4. A currently un-named, 200-room, 5 star hotel will be coming to the district; and it will cater to athletes and entertainers.
  5. Little Caesars Arena will be the loudest arena in the US! It’s architecture is a mix of Madison Square Garden and an arena in Montreal, CA.
  6. The arena will seat 20,000.
  7. Little Caesars Arena will be an entertainment center that will be hip on a cold February night! A space similar to the High Line in NY will be constructed for patrons to enjoy even when there’s not an event happening.
  8. Little Caesars Arena will house a three-story brewery! The name cannot be released yet, but we do know their brand color is BLUE.
  9. No steps, no ramps. At Little Caesars Arena, you’ll be able to walk right in to your section from the street.
  10. The District Detroit will not get a movie theater even though it’s wanted by many. The development feels as though theaters will soon be a thing of the past. 😦

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Show Yourself Some Love: Simple Everyday Tips

We’re used to taking care of other people. We look after our partners and children. We look in on our parents and check they have everything they need. We help colleagues out of jams, and we’re always there for our friends. But when do we take the time to take care of ourselves?

Practicing self-compassion and looking after ourselves is often incorrectly dubbed as selfish. But just know, taking care of yourself is necessary to your well-being. It can help with mood and even prevent certain illnesses. The following tips are simple things we can do for ourselves every day.


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Treat Yourself

Just as you would treat a friend if they were feeling a bit low, apply this to yourself. It needn’t be extravagant. Fresh flowers or a bottle of nail polish would suffice. Just a little something to perk you up.

Take Yourself On A Date

You don’t have to wait for friends or partners. Sometimes it’s good to spend time by yourself. Take yourself off to the cinema, or go and see an exhibition at a museum or art gallery. Just going for a quiet walk can also be beneficial.

Cook Yourself A Meal

The next time you have a night alone, cook yourself a special meal. Don’t just throw something in the microwave or order take-out. Cook yourself something fabulous. Find a recipe you haven’t tried before and go shopping for the ingredients. Experiment and look at different countries for inspiration. For example, the ASEAN (Association of Southeast Asian Nations) countries have some delicious dishes. Cook with herbs, spices and popular condiments for Asean cuisines, and then pop open a good bottle of wine to complement the dish.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Often the inner critic can be a formidable force. Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go as planned. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Going over and over an issue is pointless and only brings unhappiness. Learn from it and let it go! 

Take Care Of Your Body

Show your body some TLC by feeding it healthy, tasty food. Don’t load it full of processed junk food. Take time over your meals and give them some thought. Shop for fresh, healthy ingredients, and look for healthy recipes.

Dress For Yourself

Even if you’re not around other people, dress up. Do your hair and makeup and paint your nails to look pretty for yourself. Wear clothes that you love and you feel good in. Slip into some clothes that reflect your taste and personality.

Do Things You Enjoy

No matter how busy you are, do the things that you love. And do them often. This could be as simple as reading. Or if extreme sports are more your thing, do that too. Whatever fills you with joy and passion, do it.

Taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves makes us better people. It helps us to form relationships and makes us more contented with our lives. Ultimately it leads to a healthier mind and body.

**This post has been contributed**

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